Wednesday, December 31, 2008
{finally, no more talk}
addendum: oh yeah, and pj's - i can makes lots and lots of pj's. my normal daily attire.
{another article}
My black eyes are swollen.
A Mom Who Keeps Her Promises by Glynnis Whitwer
"Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:6-7 (NIV)
One day, just before the start of school, my middle son sat cross-legged on the ground, playing at the foot of my desk while I worked on the computer. Since he'd been out-thinking me from the time he was two, I shouldn't have been surprised at the conversation that ensued.
"Mom," he started simply. "When you were little, did Grandma ever tell you she'd get you a pony and then didn't?"
"No, she didn't," I answered, fully engaged and wondering where this line of thought would go.
"Well, you told us you'd take us to Toys "R" Us this summer and you didn't. That's a true lie," Dylan solidly proclaimed.
I was shocked that he remembered a promise from three months back, but more stunned by his reasoning. In the midst of being impressed by how his mind worked, I was convicted. He was right! Every time we drove past the toy store, my three little boys asked to stop and I'd put them off. It wasn't that we didn't have the time, but taking three boys into a toy store was pure torture. Either I should have taken them or I shouldn't have promised we would do it.
I stopped my work, joined him on the floor, and sincerely apologized for not following through on my commitment. That little 6-year-old taught me a lesson I'm still learning: I need to keep my promises to my children!
It's tempting to think the kids will understand when my schedule changes and it becomes inconvenient to keep a commitment. After all, they are "just" kids. Right? Wrong! I've discovered that after God and my husband, my children are the most important people to whom I should honor a promise.
The truth is while children may say they understand when we don't keep a promise, depending on their ages, it's really hard for them to fully grasp our complicated lives. All they know is they are eating a cafeteria lunch alone when mom said she'd bring a Happy Meal. Or they are in front of a TV when mom promised to take them to the park.
We all know life happens and interrupts even the best-laid plans. That's part of what we need to teach children รข€“ to be flexible. The problem arises when it becomes a habit. A mom who consistently backs out of promises will teach her children to do the same, and will leave them insecure and possibly resentful.
To become mothers who keep their promises, we need to guard our words and follow some daily practices. Don't make a promise simply to stop a child's repeated requests. Carefully consider your schedule and commitments before offering to do something. Start with small promises and build up to larger ones. If the promise has to do with an outing as a family, work together as a family to get everything done before going. Look beyond a child's words to her heart. Does her request have more to do with spending time with you than going to the park? If so, offer an alternative before you commit to something you probably can't do.
A mother has the high calling of modeling the faithfulness of God to her children. More than words, children watch actions. Will they find a mother who keeps her promises? If so, it will lead them to a God who keeps His promises.
and, to add to that, here is a link to one of my favorite bloggers, I love her heart! But, her last post somewhat goes with this and I did not even read it until after I posted this one....
Lots of Scotts
{the 2nd & 3rd commandment}
The Second Commandment of Marriage: Don’t Love a Substitute
In the second commandment recorded in Exodus 20:4-6, we are given the second principle for a strong marriage,
“You shall not make for yourself a carved image—any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.”
God commanded that we not worship carved images, whether in heaven, in earth, or in the sea. He wanted to make sure everything was covered. God said, “Do not make images of Me and then worship them. Do not love or worship a substitute for Me. Love Me.”
Some religions have made pictures, statues, and idols and then called them holy. They are all imitations. They are all substitutes. And in marriage we should have no substitutes either.
Love your husband only. Love your wife only. Do not look for fulfillment in some other relationship or in some other thing. Find your fulfillment in that relationship.
Pornography is a substitute. When a man watches pornography, he is loving a substitute. He is directing his passion and his sexuality toward those images. That is a substitute, and he is robbing his wife of that intimacy.
Do not allow any substitute, no matter what it might be, to take the place of intimacy with your spouse.
This next one is SOOOOOOOO true! I don't always succeed on this one, but, I really try. I have many friends (several who read this blog) who do this so well! And, I take notice. It's impossible not to. I would call you out if I had your permission. lol! You deserve it! And, seriously, you have no idea what an impact that makes to me let alone someone who just doesn't get it at all. So, definitely keep it up! It's almost intoxicating to hear a wife speak highly of her husband or a husband of his wife. I love it! And as we all have, I've witnessed (and participated) the opposite of that commandment. And, the end result is not pretty but so pointless and destructive on a multitude of levels. I know that we all know this already, but, it's a nice reminder for even me. So, if no one else gets anything from this post - I did. :) and, hopefully Scott (and my boys) will benefit.
The Third Commandment of Marriage: Speak Well of Your Mate
Exodus 20:7 gives us our third commandment of marriage,
"You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.”
Many misunderstand the term, in vain. It means empty, meaningless, insincere, not showing due respect.
When we speak flippantly or lightly about someone, we erode our respect for that person. Some people are just far too casual in the way they speak of their spouse, and it erodes your respect for him or her. In marriage, few things can affect the relationship like words. Words are containers. They can contain love; they can contain hate; they can contain joy; they can contain bitterness.
The book of James says that our tongue is like a rudder on a ship. It will send the ship of your marriage in whatever direction your words go. Some people are on the brink of divorce because they talk divorce. Just listen to the words they say. Are they negative or positive? Critical or encouraging?
One night I was out with a couple of friends diving for lobster. Some guys were out in one of those big, long speedboats drinking and zooming back and forth at 60 miles an hour. All of a sudden, BANG! The boat hit the rocks.
But it did not hit the rocks by itself. It was steered into the rocks. Just like the driver of that boat, some people are steering their marriage into the rocks of divorce, into the rocks of heartache, by the words they speak.
Think about what you say. Are you building up your partner? Learn to speak well of your mate. Build them up with your words. Be lavish with your praise. You will be pleased with where those words will take your relationship.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
{please bear with me}
Bayless Conley
Good marriages don’t just happen. It is not just because you married the right person and got lucky. Good marriages are built on more than passion. They are built on principle.
In the Scriptures, we find the best guidelines and principles for a healthy marriage. God’s words and God’s principles are never ever outdated…never! They are just as applicable today as they were to ancient Jews living in Israel.
I want to point us to principles God has given us in a place you might not think was intended for marriage. That place is the Ten Commandments, found in Exodus 20.
Let me give you those Ten Commandments. What I would like you to do is spend time reading these carefully, and then take time to pray over each one. Ask God to begin to open your heart to see how these commands could be looked at as principles for marriage. I had a friend who challenged me to do the same, and I was amazed at what I discovered.
“You shall have no other gods before Me. You shall not make for yourself a carved image… You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain… Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you. You shall not murder. You shall not commit adultery. You shall not steal. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.”
The First Commandment of Marriage: Exclusivity
The first of the Ten Commandments is simply this, as found in Exodus 20:3,
“You shall have no other gods before Me.”
What is God saying in this commandment? That He wants to have an exclusive relationship with you. He wants to be your one and only. He will not settle for flavor of the month.
And how appropriate in marriage as well. We are to have an exclusive relationship with our spouse.
It’s been said that Henry Ford, on his golden wedding anniversary…50 years of marriage…was asked, “What’s the secret of your success in marriage?” And he said, “The secret of my successful marriage is the same secret that I have in business: I stick to the same model.”
In traditional wedding vows, the man and woman pledge their devotion until death parts them. For life. There is no competition.
My wife has no competition. I am not shopping for a new model. I do not want to trade in the old model. I will not be shopping in the future. One is all I need.
God did not take four or five ribs and say, “Okay, Adam, here is Eve, and here is Lois, and here is Samantha, and here is Rachel.” No, it was just one. And to have a healthy marriage relationship, that is it.
I am committed for life. An exclusive relationship. I am not shopping, not even window-shopping. One God. One wife. That is enough.
{devotional}
Again, borrowed from Crosswalk.
Spiritual Curfew
Tracie Miles
“But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.” 1 Timothy 6:11-12 (NIV)
Devotion:
I thought my parents were from another planet. As a young teenager, I just didnt understand how they could sit at home on the weekends, which I was sure had been created for the sole purpose of endless socializing. As is the norm for most teens, I was convinced the curfews my parents had set for me were overbearing and pointless. But now I know that although I couldn’t see the benefit of curfews then, my parents knew what was best for me.
Have you ever felt like God’s Word has too many “don’ts” and not enough “do’s”? I have heard non-believers say that being a Christian is too rule-oriented, too strict, or simply no fun. At times, this could be the viewpoint of Christians too, who are trying to live a life for Christ but finding it difficult to turn from their old ways.
For many years in my Christian life, I played by my own set of rules. I thought that God’s commands were for religious fanatics. However, I now realize that early on, had I adhered to the “spiritual curfews” set out for me in God’s Word, many painful experiences and bad decisions could have been avoided. As it turns out, God knew what was best for me!
If you are like I once was, you too may think that some of the biblical guidelines for Christian living are overbearing, maybe even pointless. But consider this: if parents allowed their children to do whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted, with whomever they wanted, is it likely that they would learn right from wrong, take the right paths, and make decisions that are in their best interest? Of course not! Children need guidance, encouragement, discipline and direction from their parents. As children of God, we need those same things from our heavenly Father.
Sometimes it is hard to understand why God asks us to think a certain way, do certain things, or refrain from doing other things that are not indicative of someone living for Christ. That is where our faith must come in. Faith is our motivation to abide by the spiritual curfews that God outlines in His Word. If we doubt His reasoning, wonder why certain guidelines matter, or change the real meaning of a scripture to accommodate our own selfish purposes, then we are setting out on a path that will dishonor God and lead to sin.
What godly principal are you battling to obey today? I remember my mother telling me to choose my battles, since not every situation was worth fighting for. Living a Godly life is sometimes a battle. This is one battle we should always fight: to honor God’s Word. If we believe the Bible is truth, we should follow its guidelines. In a world where moral values are crumbling around us, Christians need to fight the good fight.
Even though God’s Word may sting our hearts at times, and we may feel convicted by the Holy Spirit when we do wrong, let us never forget that God truly does know what is best for us.
{aunt J}
and to "the others" as to why I don't email her.....she checks this daily. It was started for her. :) So this will give her the earliest update.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
{he survived}
I have alot of catching up to do on the posting but it has been a crazy weekend. We tried to fit some fun in for the boys which always seems to backfire of late. Scott made it through Christmas morning (yea!) and early afternoon until the medication got the best of him. He missed Christmas with my family that evening. He literally slept from Christmas afternoon until yesterday. The deep, almost scary kind of sleep. We paged the doctor on Saturday and it was decided the med they have been working to get him on in hopes the side effects would be fewer needed to be stopped. So, they are titrating him down from that. He actually got out and about with us for awhile yesterday and that went fairly well, but, he did not do well last night. He is either asleep or cannot sleep. I have hated this last medication, but am sad that another attempt did not work given the hope that we had, but so glad he is being taken off of it. I'm just a little heartsick over the whole thing this morning. I appreciate all of the sweet prayers (Philip - yours made me cry!). It is just so hard sometimes and I am not even the one living with the pain and all of the other things that come along with it. Just keep him in your prayers. I am NOT giving up hope. And, now that getting the med out of his system will go more smoothly than it did going in.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
{downgraded}
{fading fast}
everyone, log on to Norad tonight!
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
{is ____ too many?}
i'll reveal the number of mine after you tell me yours ;)
{christmas torture}
Monday, December 22, 2008
{i love this}
Don't just tell your children that you love them ~ tell them what you love about them.
{two years}
{heart attack}
this now resides in my office!!!!!!!!!! Isn't it wonderful???? The story behind it is really funny; so that just adds to it.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
{more christmas}
the flip side of that is i am so sad that december is almost over. i know all of us our busy, busy - but, the kink of us getting sick threw a little twist in the plans. but, again, i am thankful that ours was minor - i have several friends whose child or spouse is in the hospital as i type this. so, i have nothing to complain about.
and, on a much lighter note, a few pictures that i took a couple weeks ago. nothing fancy, in fact, i skipped out on much of it. no christmas village, just one tree, no train; but, very christmas-ey just the same.
so, here is our little tour....... nothing like the one i went on a couple of weeks ago in a neighborhood in greenwood - but, ideas i took from it nonetheless. i've decided next year, i am going to start my christmas craft projects in july. i got zilch completed this year.
i had spied this metal birthday cake last year at Lisa B's and bypassed it. I saw it again at Holiday Market and walked away kicking myself. Finally, with little hope i went into Lisa's a couple weeks ago and asked if she by chance had one this year - she did! she had one and it was 50% off! i LOVE it!
i am loving using fabric this year. just the inexpensive stuff at walmart. just seems to soften everything.
our poor little gingerbread house. note to self: remember to put the frosting in the bottom of the tray next year. yep! that would have helped! even our outdoor gb man was sad. :(
ang i and always either get each other an ornament or buy one for ourselves when we are together. this is us when we are old. it says sisters. others i have from her include a couple of elvis, a multi-tasking mom in mayhem, glass ornaments, etc.
THIS is one of our cherished ornaments. notice i have kept the tag on (on purpose) we purchased this on one of our trips to SF for in-vitro. at the pier, they had an all year Christmas shop so - we got a noah's ark for whatever child God had in our future. little did we know how we would be incrediably blessed with noah about 3 years later.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
{santa just rang the doorbell}
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
{traditions}
1. Opening two gifts on Christmas Eve - one a new set of PJ's and a "gift". (partially carried over from my childhood)
2. Reading the Christmas story from Luke on Christmas Eve.
3. Our Jesus Birthday Party - 3rd year running. I used to bake an Angel Food cake, but, decided to go all out a few years back.
4. Christmas Light Night. This year, I plan to pick up pizza so we can eat it in the car as we ohhhh & ahhhh.
5. The Christmas Camp-Out that I stole from the Coston family. We have tried it twice and something has happened to interrupt it both times. I'm not giving up though, another attempt this Saturday night.
6. Reading our Christmas books over the month of December. One mom I saw actually wraps hers and lets the children open one each night.
7. Our Elf Elmer - new this year! Love it!
8. Dear Santa letters (and email this year)
9. Magic Reindeer Dust....love that!
I'm certain there are more, but, I have a horrible headache and literally cannot think. So, leave a comment with your family traditions!!!!
{ha!}
Seriously? Has the lack of oxygen from the congestion caused that much damage?
Sunday, December 14, 2008
{the downers}
Saturday, December 13, 2008
{christmas card}
i wish I could show you our card - I'm trying out something totally new before possibly offering it next year.....but, I'll make you wait until you open your mailbox & then, let me know, old style versus trial version.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
{happy birthday}
{bunnies - day six}
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
{swirling}
And, Noah and I made a mad dash into Wally World yesterday and while there we picked up our party decorating supplies (for Dec 25th!). We bought Jesus a birthday card, streamers, balloons (all red and lime), and a red velvet cake with cream cheese icing. We will all collect three 'presents' for the party. The boys bring the things that are dear to them, it's funny. So, Jesus will probably be getting hot wheels and trains. We are each going to send invitations to our family and friends that will be coming. Just a fun day! I'm so excited! & a benefit - we will get to stay in our pj's all day for this party. { & the decorations are DONE! }
Sunday, December 7, 2008
{GREAT find}
The boys LOVED it as did Scott and I. Click on send Santa a letter and 'compose' your letter - within seconds from hitting send you will get a personalized response from Santa. So fun!!! They boys were literally beside themselves. Scott and I even sent one. A definite highlight!
Also, had a GREAT time touring the homes in Greenwood today. So beautiful!
Saturday, December 6, 2008
{L&D}
{bunnies - day two}
Pardon the picture quality, I did not want to use a flash, so I had my ISO extremely high and was trying not to disturb her to much. So, quick shot of Day 2.
{giving}
This morning, I ran into a sweet friend as we got donuts for the kids. Just a chance meeting. As we drove away in opposite directions, I just had an immense sense of peace & happiness. You know, the one in which all is right in the world, although you know better. The type that can only be explained from above. Well, I smiled to myself as I often tease her at how perfect her life is and she quickly reminds me that it is "life". She looked perfect as always, I was in my running clothes, hair piled on top of my head; not presentable at all. And, I only tease her because of all of the dysfunction in my own life right now. :) But, she and I started out pretty much the same and have alot of similarities with our backgrounds as children. As I drove home, I was listening to great music, my boys were in the backseat all cozy and warm eating donuts....I was just thankful for so much: the health that we have, our home, our children, our friendships. Very thankful. I looked at what my boys have while taking into account what they have lost and even that floods me with a rush of emotions. I can see parallels and clear distinctions with and of my own childhood. Sometimes, it is very hard, and other times I feel the need to revisit my own childhood at this time of year in particular. I get a huge urgency to give. And, I would beg of you to do also.
I was that child. The one that is on the other side of the giving - the receiving. I was one of the children who benefited from the Salvation Army Christmas gifts every year. The memory of my brother and me sitting in my grandpa's car in the parking lot at the Fort Smith facility is etched in very deep. In fact, a few months ago while making a wrong turn in downtown Fort Smith, I saw the building for the first time since my childhood. It made my heart stop.
Even though somedays I am painfully aware of the circumstances that have changed for us - not in the material ways, but, in the things that matter: health, family involvement, and just day to day activities I had so taken for granted; I am so aware of how blessed we are in the midst of that. So, as I go through the boys closets this year and get sickened by the massive amounts of toys they have accumulated over the past year, I hope to instill in them this urgency to give. When I pass by the Salvation Army bells - I can't help but to dig in my purse - my ears cannot ignore that ringing. So whether it be the Salvation Army - or any other worthwhile cause - please take a moment to see what your family can do this year. I know that times are tough for so many of us right now any my heart is just aching to help in some small way. At least, clean out some closets. You have no idea how what your children have pushed aside will absolutely thrill another child. I promise you that, because I know.
Friday, December 5, 2008
{unbelieveable}
{sock monkey ornaments}
{finished!}
update of Noah: hovering about 101 with medication. He starting to get a cough now. :( Even though I am literally only feet away from him working on a case, it is so hard to walk away from him. :( But, he's set - sprite, remote control, cozy blanket, cartoons, Christmas lights and the fact his brother is in the room, but on the other side of the room. No fighting. Gasp! I know you thought they never fought. Yeah, right, just ask Mr. Justin. Although, I'm not sure what that was? Daddy maybe? Thus the lovely Mrs. Mandy buys them punching bags per Justin's request.
Okay, a tad off track there!
{sick day}
Thursday, December 4, 2008
{first}
{PLEASE}
i'm just sad for him. i am worried that thanksgiving somewhat spurred all of this on. if his head is not killing him, he is asleep and then if it is, he tries to sleep. i just desperately want him to enjoy christmas. the boys and I miss him!
rewind button anyone?
{mammograms and alzheimers}
{a work-in-progress}
Still working on it & pardon the mess!
Lights, camera (in hand)......
NO action!! :) But, oh how sweet!
Two monkeys for two monkeys.
The mantel is totally different this year, I used stuff I had, with the exception of the polka-dot SANTA sign. Very fun and whimsical. Okay, and a bit gaudy. I should rename this the gaudy blog. That's me! I love color a bit too much. But, isn't it fun?? And I can somewhat get away with it at Christmas. {wink, wink}
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
{reluctant receipt}
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
{guy stuff}
Added: let me make note of the nice shop I took it to. The brake pads were so thin it really needed to be done. Again, I had no idea there was even a problem. It was late and they were about to close, so instead of me having to bring it back tomorrow - they stayed there late and fixed it for me. It could have been much worse, I could have been typing Part II tomorrow.
{wrong again}
Monday, December 1, 2008
{ahhh}
also, the boys are having a BALL with Elmer the Elf. The moment they open their eyes, the search is on. They talk to him (aka "tell on each other" just in case he missed it), report the good things they've done in case he missed that too. So fun!
{festive}
The rearrangement will probably throw Noah out of his orbit, he's still not liking to two different colors of paint in the kitchen. But, at least his tree will be up and it's only December 1st! And, I can pretty much promise you I think I'm keeping it up well into January. This is hard work!
Sunday, November 30, 2008
{pondering}
"Finally, brothers, whatever is TRUE, whatever is NOBLE, whatever is RIGHT, whatever is PURE, whatever is LOVELY, whatever is ADMIRABLE - if anything is EXCELLENT or PRAISEWORTHY - think about such things." Phil 4:8
No futher commentary needed. HE said it all.
Friday, November 28, 2008
{peeping tom}
{big day}
And, our elf arrived at our front door last night. I will definitely post more on that later. So cute! Noah has fallen for him completely and is actually looking for his new hiding place as I type this. Evan.....not so sure. Actually, very skeptical. Although, I say that and I heard them both talking to him at different times last night. Adding to their list of course! Evan is also having a very difficult time not touching him to see if he is "deal". They also followed the storyline and named him......Elmer. So, our family now has Elmer the Elf.
Now, I am frantically trying to get so much wrapped up in order to visit my aunt and family in Oklahoma City. I was already suppose to be on the road and I'm not even close. :(
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
{quick sneak}
but, i wanted to remember this. Evan has been quite the grump this morning. no, that's not what i want to remember........but, this.....this is what i heard "mommie, i don't like these yellow ones. i like what i like." i have no idea what he is referring to?? "evan, what are you talking about?" "dese, eggs, i do not liked the mixed up ones (aka scrambled), but the roasted ones (aka boiled, anyone ever had a roasted egg? yuck!) mommmmmmiieeeeeee, i dust like what i like and dat's it! "
i hope that if anything ever happens to me....that someone out there will be able to understand his evanese. he'll be in a heap of trouble if not. and, likely starve to death!
Monday, November 24, 2008
{fallen off the wagon. already.}
oh.my.goodness! i had never been in there before! i love it! i bought several little items, mostly for christmas...a few for me. ;) for christmas, so that makes it okay, right? i got scott some "onion goggles". seriously. he cannot be around onions AT ALL when they are being chopped or it will pretty much guarantee a migraine. problem solved! i'm not sure if they are really for him or for my benefit, it's a toss up! then, i got someone (no name mentioned) a "butter bowl" it is a cute little red ceramic dish that you add a stick of REAL butter and a measurement of water. the water seals it shut and you can leave it safely out of the fridge as it is tightly sealed. soft butter at a moments notice. may sound strange, but the recipient will love it. because, she loves butter. let's see....i also got THE CUTEST recipe holder for someone that has been looking for THE CUTEST recipe holder. did i say it was very cute? hmmmmm.......they also have all of these neat cooking gadgets - measuring utensils, whisks, scrapers, etc for older people or those who have difficulty with using their hands/arm (ie. my mom from the fracture last year). she cannot stir things well, cannot open things at all....will be perfect! they also have the cute little "chalkboard" signs. that was what i got for me.....i can write the boys notes, happy whatever, i love you's - it will be fun. and, disposible cups for get togethers that have "labels" to write your name to avoid a mix-up with an uncle with a cold. thoughtful things too. ;)
and, if either of you know the owners Jaime or Jennifer........super sweet and fun! and, they did not even ask me to write this. just some really cute finds in a complete range of prices all at one stop. i love that! just wanted to share.
{media fast}
{prayer request}
i knew she didn't sound herself and before hanging up, i asked if everything was well with them. at the moment she was enroute back home after being in an auto accident over the weekend in tulsa. she was on the phone with her husband when it happened. she has numerous staples in her head, face/eye area and is very sore. i am praying for a speedy, uneventful recovery for her. i know it has scared her family so much. it was difficult for me to even look at the pictures of just two weeks ago last night. another reminder of how quickly things can change. i am just so thankful it was no worse than it was. it was a fun filled weekend that ended on a very different note. also, the other people involved were also transported to the hospital, their conditions unknown right now. please keep all of them in your prayers.
{devotional for girlfriends}
November 24, 2008 What Now? Sharon Jaynes (Crosswalk)
Today's Truth "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him who have been called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28 NIV)
Friend to Friend Have you ever had a shattered dream? If so, you're not alone.
If ever there was a group of people who lost their dream, it was Jesus' disciples and the women who ministered to and with them. They had such high expectations that Jesus would be the next political leader of Israel (Luke 24:20). They had witnessed his power in feeding 5,000 men plus women and children with two loaves and five fishes; they felt the waves beneath their tiny boat subside at his command; they had watched him breathe life into a lifeless child, open the eyes of a man blind from birth, create new skin from rotting flesh on the limbs of lepers, and command a lame man to take up his pallet and walk. They had seen him walk on water, outwit the Pharisees, and win the lost.
In their narrow scope of hopes for a political leader to save the Jews, they missed the bigger picture of God's plan for a Savior to free mankind from the bondage of sin. While Peter realized Jesus' identity ("You are the Christ."), he did not understand His destiny. Peter was shocked when Jesus explained that He had to go to Jerusalem, suffer, be killed, and on the third day rise from the dead. He even took Jesus aside and said, "Never, Lord. This shall never happen to you!" (Mark 8:33). This was not part of Peter's dream. Suffering did not fit into his plan.
"Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men."
Call me stupid, but don't call me Satan. Yet, that is how Jesus sees it when we try to block God's plans. He sees us as an instrument of darkness, an offense, a hindrance and a snare. It is amazing that one minute Peter could be a building block and the next a stumbling block but that's the trap we all fall into when we have our minds set on the world instead of on the things of God.
Jesus told His disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself, take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life, will lose it, but whoever lose his life for me will find it." (Matthew 16:24)
Even though Jesus forewarned the disciples of his death and resurrection, they fled when the soldiers came to arrest him, and they hid when he was hung on a cross to die. When Jesus was sealed in the tomb, their hopes and dreams were sealed in the darkness with him.
Every day, I receive emails from women who have had their dreams shattered. A husband has an affair, becomes addicted to pornography, abuses the children, or deserts the family. A child gets caught with drugs, gets pregnant or dies in a car accident. Parents divorce, friends betray, careers come to an abrupt halt. The list is endless. So what do we do when our dreams are seemingly destroyed? The answer to that question will shape the rest of our lives. (how true that is!)
Does that mean we give up our dreams? I can promise you this, whatever dreams you have for your life, God's dreams are greater. The power of the Holy Spirit the disciples received after Jesus' resurrection, and the impact they made on the world thereafter, was beyond their wildest dreams. That's what God does with a heart wholly yielded to Him. That's what He does when we give our shattered dreams to Him. I have learned to stop saying "Why me?" but instead start saying "What now?"
Let's Pray Dear Lord, there are things about my life that I don't understand, but I do know this. You are good and You are kind. I thank You that nothing happens in my life that is a surprise to You. You have a greater plan than my small vision can imagine. I pray that You will reveal that larger plan for my life to me. Help me to pay attention to Your promptings and obey Your bidding.
In Jesus' name, Amen.
Now It's Your Turn Think back over your life and list two or three dreams that did not turn out like you thought they would.
Is there a prayer request or dream in your life that, in retrospect, you are glad God did respond to affirmatively?
Write down any areas of your life where you have said, "Why me?" and are now willing to say,"What now?"
Place yourself in the disciples' sandals for just a moment. How do you think you would have felt the night Jesus died on the cross?
How do you think you would have felt the day you saw Him walk into the room ... resurrected from the dead?
How would that experience have affected the way you viewed trials in your life from that time forward?
Now, how should that affect the way you see trials today?
More from the Girlfriends Shattered dreams are a part of life. But God has big plans for each of us. Can you risk the hope that God still has dreams for your life? That He hasn't forgotten you. Place your hand firmly in His-take a deep breath and begin the exciting journey to a place you thought you'd never find: the dream God planned for you all along. You'll find all this and more in Sharon's book, Dreams of a Woman-God's Plan for Fulfilling Your Dreams.
Sunday, November 23, 2008
{stolen idea}
mischelle, i'm definitely going to have to borrow that one! love it! feel free to comment on what christmas traditions your family incorporates!
{unemployment}
so, the jury is still out on that one. obviously when she stuck it in another pillow case for retrieval.......she forgot. nice. and, how in the world am i suppose to keep up with santa?
{misquoted}
{complicated matters}
i think the poor child is convinced he is getting a lump of coal this year. ;)
Saturday, November 22, 2008
{happy}
i am very conflicted right now. i have friends who have decorated for christmas and it's killing me. not that i even could right now with all of the workload, but, i am a little green-eyed. but, i still have my fall stuff up and am making myself stick with it until thanksgiving. it's tough!
what a great thing to be conflicted about! if everything could be as difficult as that! ;)
addendum: cannot get angela's link to work?
{my head is still spinning}
but, she also mentioned our "find for the day"....... remember this little guy i posted about last year... i got the picture from the internet...... does not do it justice
i had intended to order him long before now, but, he was one of the first things i ran into at holiday market. he is better than expected!!! the story is so sweet and what a fun family tradition. the abbreviated version is that he arrive to your house (thanksgiving night) you read the sweet little book to the family, name him and he will reside with your family throughout the day, he flies back to the northpole at night while the children are sleeping and reports the "good and bad" to santa. the fun thing is, he "lands" in a different spot every morning, so the children will have to get up and find him. they cannot touch him because if so....the his magic will be gone. just great great fun for the kids! and, i'm thinking mom and dad too! i'm so excited i can hardly stand it.
they are actually here locally at creative kitchen in fort smith. they are priced lower or as well as they are online, but, without shipping.